Set your goals. But WHY?
It’s that time of year where we all make a personal pact to change our ways, turn over a new leaf or start new healthier habits. But why?
Why do we decide to make these promises to ourselves on the 1st January, and why are most of them broken by the end of that week.
I believe the reason why most people generally don’t stick to their New Year’s Resolution is because they are focusing on the wrong thing.
Picture this for a moment…
Imagine something you really want to change in your life. It might be that you want to stop eating so much junk food, to get bigger muscles, to lose weight or to get fitter. Perhaps you want to read more books or spend more time with your kids. Perhaps you just want to slow down and spend more time smelling the roses.
Now imagine you are doing or achieving this thing that you want. Focus intensely on how that feels. See it, smell it, taste it and really get inside that feeling. What you are sensing right now is the real reason why you want this thing.
If you want to eat less junk food, it is because you want better and more stable energy levels and to feel healthy. If you want to get bigger muscles, it isn’t because you want to be able to lift heavier things, it is more likely that you want to feel good in your body and crave the admiration of others. If you want to spend more time smelling the roses, it is because you want to have less stress in your life so that you can feel less pressure and have more “you time”.
The reason we end up dropping our New Year’s resolutions is because rather than focusing on the feeling, we end up focusing on the thing that brings the feeling. When we start to struggle keeping up the promises to ourselves, the natural reaction is to quit or at the very least get frustrated. I’m suggesting that rather than get frustrated, refocus on the feeling you are chasing and re-establish your reasons for wanting it. If you can’t get bigger muscles today, what can you do right now to feel good in your skin? If you want to lose weight and it is taking too long; eat something healthy like some fruit and focus on how it feels good eating it. It is after all, that Feeling Good “feeling” that you are looking for. Or simply put on your favourite clothes and feel good because you look good.
Before you go and write down your goals, before you even pick up the pen, think hard about WHY you want that particular thing and immerse yourself in that reason. Burn the feeling of that reason into your mind and make that your goal. You may just discover that there are a lot of ways to get to that feeling and this will help to keep you on track when the going gets tough. As they say, there is more than one way to skin a cat.
You may know someone that always seems to be happy or content with their life. It may just be that this person knows something about finding and keeping that Feeling Good feeling. This is something worth practicing. Give it a try and see for yourself, the difference it can make.
Run long, feel good.
P.S. Feel free to leave your number 1 goal for 2013 in the comments section below.